It’s a lonely thought that not many people will know you for who you truly are and all that may entail. Individuals come into your life and see the parts of you they want to see and they take parts with them when they leave.  

Maintaining a strong connection involves mutual effort and communication. Dismissing reality in an attempt to “spare” somebody’s feelings is selfish. You are not worried about hurting them, you are anticipating the pain that will come back towards you after doing so. Be bold, take a risk, hesitation does not look good on you. Insecurity is not your color because integrity is in season.  

I’m going to let you in on a little secret that I discussed on a train ride to Chicago with one of my close friends. Now this isn’t a really a secret, but it is a concept that is whispered about due to fear. Be selfish. Saying “no” to people or dismissing somebody’s feelings in order to validate your own is human. But so is being vulnerable. Empathy does not always require action. Find a balance between allowing others in and knowing when to walk away from people who do not benefit you or your message. 

The people you surround yourself with, your friends, your significant other, they accessorize you. They make you feel good, maybe encourage you to dress or act a certain way. Having a support system is great and often aids in our confidence and happiness; however, they are simply supplementary. 

YOU choose how to present yourself to others despite the various ways in which they may respond. You choose to wear them on your side because it helps to express and identify your style. You are allowed to be picky. You are supposed to outgrow others, to change your mind, to look back at old photos and realize you look better now without having to carry around that extra baggage. 

Today, be authentic. Wear that beautiful smile I haven’t seen anywhere else. 

​SIERRA HOBSON is a blogger for Contact her at Follow her on twitter @hobson_sierra.

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