by The Vidette Editorial Board
Being in college is not about partying or sleeping around. It is for
getting an education to better oneself in the long run. While in school,
however, many students will meet the person they’ll eventually marry. The
traditional path for many of these students is to graduate, get a job, and then
look to marriage and starting a family.
But what happens to students who
don’t follow this pattern? Or the ones who get engaged — or even married —
while still in school? Many students look at people following the pattern as
examples for future broken marriages. They think that by being engaged, those
people are missing out on their younger years of freedom.
An article on Slate, written by
Julia Shaw, contradicts this idea. Shaw, a woman who married at the age of 23,
does not associate failed marriages with younger marriages. In her article, she
states, “Marriage wasn’t something we did after we’d grown up — it was how we
had grown up and grown together.”
Shaw argues that more millennials
should marry at a young age instead of putting it off. She believes that being
married while young allows the couple to overcome more problems and share their
As expected, however, this
article received a lot of backlash. Another writer at Slate, Amanda Marcotte,
responded to Shaw’s article by presenting different facts and experiences to
show that marrying someone young does not make him or her your “soul mate.” She
actually went on to write, “State-by-state statistics show similar correlations
between lower average age of marriage and higher divorce rates.”
Marcotte attributes much of the
reason for waiting for marriage to women wanting to advance their careers,
saying, “Delaying marriage is associated with women making more money in the
All of this controversy stirred
up a Washington Post article by Dylan Matthews. This one, however, focused
largely on the varying pros and cons of marrying young. It associated younger
marriages with more sex and more happiness, but for those who wait do tend to
earn more money.
But with all reasons, there are
still examples to contradict them. For instance, after 30 years of age, men who
are unmarried actually start earning less than their married counterparts,
according to the Washington Post article. Women, on the other hand, do tend to
earn more money the longer they wait to marry.
That being said, this Editorial
Board believes that there is no right or wrong answer. It is a matter of
personal preference when a couple should marry if they choose to. However, it
is essential to point out that marrying while in college or directly after
college could greatly affect students’ educations.
Planning a wedding and taking the
time to properly prepare for a marriage would be difficult to balance with
school work and job demands. Some students get engaged with the understanding
that they will not be marrying in the near future, and in those scenarios, the
demands would probably not interfere too much.
Overall, this Editorial Board
encourages students and couples to assess their own situations. There is no
pressure to get married immediately, so for those who are single: enjoy it.
Keep trying to find that special someone if that is what you want. For those in
a relationship: keep your expectations clear and communication open about the