With a new school year underway and new opportunities looming everywhere, fall is a great time to brush up on your pick-up skills. College is one of the most memorable times of a person’s life, and perhaps you’re still looking for that special someone to share it with. No matter how you spin it, there is definitely an art to picking up. Below are some tips for college students to keep in mind when searching.
-Whatever it is you say, it should be genuine. Most girls can tell when you are being insincere and when you are flattering them. An original compliment can go a long way.
-Be confident. You have to believe in yourself, and if not, then pretend to believe in yourself. Women are generally attracted to men with a healthy amount of self-confidence.
-Have a conversation. By taking the time to talk and get to know her, you will automatically build rapport. Women like to talk, and almost everyone likes to talk about themselves, so asking a few simple questions (without making it seem like you are interrogating her) is a good way to get things started.
-Good manners are important, as well as being charismatic and having a sense of humor. Having all of these personality traits will guarantee more success in picking up.
-You may actually be better off not having a “wingman.” By tag-teaming, the focus may be taken off you. You are more likely to be successful if you go solo instead, and you will definitely appear to be more sincere.
-Brush it off if you are not at successful at first. By not taking it all so seriously, you will be much more likely to draw in more potential prospects; people are attracted to happy, carefree people. The absolute best thing you can do is to realize that you do not need her approval — and guess what? You don’t.
-Be approachable. If you want a guy to come up to you, the best thing you can do is not be surrounded by too many of your friends — many guys will feel intimidated to go up to a posse of girls. Put the phone away and make sure to smile!
-Get the conversation going even when he sends a boring text like “How was your day?” Instead of answering, “Good, how was your day?” be more specific and give a few small details about what you did or whatever you are interested in. This is more interesting and will keep the conversation from falling flat early on.
-Rather than going out for the regular dinner and a movie, suggest an activity that you both enjoy and can do together, such as mini-golfing or visiting a museum. This will help relieve any uneasy tension and will make for a more memorable date.
-Avoid getting Catfished when chatting online. When meeting someone online, ask them to live chat with you — this way, you can be sure of who you are talking to and steer clear of players that can be all too commonly found on the Internet.
-If you disagree with him, say so. Don’t agree with everything he says just because you think you should. Expressing your own opinion is far more stimulating than just saying what you think he wants to hear.
-Now is the time to be sure of who you are. There is no quality more attractive than being comfortable with yourself, so if he pays you a compliment, don’t talk him out of it. Just smile and say thank you.