Within the last couple of years, many groups and institutions have created social media pages dedicated to where people can post annonymous comments, whether funny, serious, or even embarassing. The ones I like affiliated with Illinois State University include: “ISU Confessions” and “ISU Secret Admirer”. Most of the time, the comments on these pages are humorous or thoughtful, but sometimes I just think, “WHY did you submit that?” That aside, the reason for me writing about this is that recently I saw multiple posts on both pages from ISU students explaining how lonely they are here at school. And this got me wondering. Do these individuals realize that they are not alone when it comes to feeling lonely?
Many replied saying that the student should get involved on campus, should break out of their shell and do something outside their comfort zone. Others would just leave a comment saying that “everything would be okay!” I feel for these individuals and applaud them for being brave enough to post their feelings on the internet, even if it is anonymous. I do not know what these students expected to come of their confessions, if anything. But what I do know is that I have my own thoughts about this subject.
What we all need to realize is that EVERYONE feels lonely from time to time. More often than we realize, our peers feel the same things we do, the positive and the negative. Most will not admit when they are sad. Some have too much self-pride (well, I guess
except for those who will admit it via the internet). As young adults, we do not want to admit weakness. Loneliness, sadness, depression, etc. affects all of us from time to time. It is part of being human. Do not forget that, you lonely Redbirds!!
Back in the day, there were groups called “Lonely Hearts clubs” where people could meet up with other lonely individuals to catch up, watch a movie, play cards, etc. In today’s world, there are groups similar to that like speed dating and dinner clubs. I am not suggesting ISU start up a club like that. ISU has plenty of clubs, societies and student organizations already that can bring its students together in the same way. What I want you lonely ones to take away is that EVERYONE feels the same way you do, though you cannot read it on their face. With that in mind, stay positive everybody! With every cloud comes a silver lining.