Daddy Issues


“Whenever a female has a [messed] up relationship with her father, or absence of a father figure during her childhood, it tends to spill into any adult relationship they embark on, usually to the chagrin of any poor male in their life.” -Urban Dictionary

If you have ever heard of Sigmund Freud, he came up with the idea of the Oedipus complex that states that boys are sexually attracted to his mother. In my opinion, that is just gross.

But Carl Jung, a Swiss psychiatrist and psychotherapist, came up with a similar idea, the Electra complex. The Electra complex is similar to the Oedipus complex, but with daughters being attracted to their fathers.

This is where the concept of “daddy issues” comes from. It is basically an insulting thing men say to women when they “get around.” I find it funny how there is a double standard for men and women. When a guy “gets around,” his friends applaud him. When a girl does it, she has “daddy issues” and is called, in lack of a better word, a slut.

This is something I have heard a lot about through the course of my years of dating. It is something I have strong feelings about and it’s true… to an extent. I have experienced the lack of a father figure throughout most of my years growing up. I saw him occasionally but because he wasn’t living with me, boys were always weary of me. I was told repeatedly as a young woman that I would be stuck fighting these so called “daddy issues” for the rest of my life.

If you don’t have a solid father figure as a child, it is said to affect you later in life. I am not saying this isn’t true. But the first step is to realize that your lack of a father figure in your life doesn’t make you incapable of a stable relationship. It is important to know that sometimes you may seek attention from men in a negative or excessive amount.

One thing I believe in is that you are what you say you are. So don’t let other people tell you that you are the way you are because you have “daddy issues.” If you believe that you have issues then in turn, you will blame all of your failures and struggles in future relationships on the lack of a dad.

We are all responsible for our actions despite our past.


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