Thanks to modern technology, the art of dating is no longer confined to a classy restaurant, a swanky bar or a dim movie theater.
What used to be the classic arm-around-the-shoulder-yawn technique is now a like, poke or flirt option on increasingly popular dating sites like Match.com, OkCupid and the infamous smartphone app, Tinder.
People everywhere are turning to these online matchmakers in hopes of finding a new, potential love interest.
But whether you’re interested in having a one-time casual chat, or a conversation about marriage, there are a number of advantages and disadvantages to consider before entering the online dating scene.
Joanna, who wished to keep her last name private, created a profile on Tinder, a matchmaking app that generates communication with users who are nearby, without thinking it could turn into anything serious.
“It was a lazy, hung-over Saturday afternoon, and as a joke, my friends and I decided to play around with Tinder,” Joanna said.
But what began as an afternoon activity quickly spiraled into a possible relationship. Joanna decided to get to know one of her matches, a man named Piotr.
Joanna and Piotr began communicating with each other almost every day. They used Skype to talk to each other for hours on end.
“We were basically the same person and had the same personality. We got along great together,” Joanna said.
With her sorority’s barn dance around the corner, Joanna invited Piotr to meet her and accompany her to the dance.
But meeting Piotr did not go as planned.
“As soon as he got out of his car, I knew we were in trouble. At the dance, I think I only hung out with him for about 30 minutes all together,” Joanna said.
Their date worsened when Piotr became violent with Joanna. The pair ended their night in an ugly argument.
“Needless to say, I never talked to him again, and I deleted my Tinder app,” Joanna said.
Unfortunately, getting to know someone through a dating site proved to be a different experience than getting to know him in person. For Joanna, Tinder did not find her love, but another disastrous date for the books.
However, there may be an upside to these online matchmakers. Another student, who wished to keep her identity anonymous, used PlentyofFish.com to find her current boyfriend.
“I really liked Plenty of Fish because I could do it on my own time, and I was able to see the type of guys I would want to connect with,” anonymous said.
The online dating scene allowed her to talk to the people she wanted to talk to and ignore the people she wanted to ignore, an option that proves to be more difficult in real life.
“I could weed out the guys that I didn’t like without the pressure of turning them down face-to-face,” anonymous said.
After meeting a variety of individuals, anonymous began talking to a guy around Christmas-time. The two are now dating.
For her, a relationship came naturally, as she was able to find someone who matched her personality online and in-person.
Clearly, there are numerous pros and cons of online dating that need to be considered. It’s up to you to decide whether it’s the right scene for your dating needs.