I bet we can all agree that when we left high school as seniors about to enter college, we all thought we were pretty cool. We worked our way up from a lowly freshman to being on top as a senior. Then we arrived at college and we were a lowly freshman again. If you think about it, that is how life is always going to be. You start as a small fish in a big pond and by the time you are done, you are a big fish in a little pond. And as we transition and the pond gets smaller (so to speak), we find our place. In high school, we found our place, our friends, our extra-curricular activities. Popularity in high school is another important component that drives high school. It is all about finding our place and where we fit in. The same can be said for college. We all kind of started over, even if we brought friends from home. College is a completely different environment. We started fresh, no one knew us and we had the opportunity to reinvent ourselves and find our place.
Like I said, through every phase of life we enter, we will have to start at the bottom and work our way to the top. After we leave college, we will have to face all this again. We will start over in a new phase in life as a little guy, and as we develop in our new environment, we grow into one of the big guys. These days, I am a believer that everything happens for a reason. Related to that idea, in life, we are presented with certain opportunities all the time. Not all of us are presented with the same circumstances. We all have individual life plans and our own place. So I figure, we should all try to be the best version of ourselves and let what is supposed to happen in life happen. This all plays on the idea of accepting the things we cannot change, learning how to fix the things we can fix and having the wisdom to be able to differentiate between the two.
No matter what path we follow, no matter what we are given in life, no matter whether we are “popular” or not, everyone should take advantage of our circumstances and do the best we can to create the best version of ourselves as we transition through all our phases in life. Doing that will ensure that we make the most of our situation. We are not always going to be top dog. Life will be challenging and we will not always know our place. But remaining confident and steadfast will ease the transitions so we all can enjoy being the little guy and the big guy.