|DEAR ABBY: How can I get over a cheater?|
|Written by Abby, Daily Vidette Advice Columnist|
|Sunday, 06 May 2012 09:26|
I have been seeing this guy on and off since September. I recently found out that the most recent time we got back together he was also seeing someone else on a nearby campus.
I still see him on a regular basis and don’t know what to do about the situation. What is your suggestion?
Dear Two- timed,
This is a very difficult situation. I’m sorry to hear that this happened to you. It appears to me that some college men seem to think they are invincible and can do whatever they want, whenever they want, regardless of whom they hurt along the way.
Obviously, I don’t believe this is true of every single one of them. Many people I know, including myself, have great guy friends. But not all of them seem to have other people’s best interests in mind. What’s important is how you handle the situation from here on out.
The best thing to do is ignore him. He’s not worth a single breath more from you and the fact that he thought it was fine to treat you this way is disgraceful. There’s no explanation or excuse for lying to a person on a daily basis and leading them on to believe a false reality. Obviously he was two-timing you, since you didn’t know about this other girl. And since you’re writing in I feel it’s safe to say you’re hurt, which you have every right to be.
It must be very awkward and uncomfortable seeing him on a regular basis as well. What’s important for you to know is that you need to move on. Not even necessarily with another guy, but as an independent person. Don’t let this one guy ruin it for you with anyone else. Even though it may seem like it now, not every guy is going to treat you this way. At first your trust level is going to be shot down, but time will go on and he’ll get what’s coming to him. Any guy that would disrespect and cheat on a woman has serious issues himself. That goes for women that do it, too.
I don’t know the whole situation other than what you wrote in, so the best advice I can give you is to leave him in the past and do what’s best for you. Whether it be giving another nice fella a shot who’s sincere after spending lots of quality time together getting to know each other, or being single and being independent. I truly believe you cannot love another until you love yourself. Plus you are in college — you have your entire life ahead of you. There’s no rush to be in a relationship right this second. Best of luck!
Keepin’ it real,