Women are the backbone of our society: always the first to address you, the first to protect you and the first to feed you. Without women, we would not exist. This is the truth society chooses to ignore so blatantly.
“Ignore” is the word we use due to the lack of value we see surrounding the lives of women. Over time, women have been taught to be careful out alone, never dress promiscuously and be wary of anything that goes bump in the night. The whole upbringing of women has been centered around the idea that no stranger could be trusted.
But what happens when statistics start pointing toward the people you know? Recently, domestic violence deaths have been brought to our attention more and more. This does not mean they are actually becoming more frequent, just that the cases are getting more attention from social media and the news than ever before.
Many want to see domestic violence as the exception to the rule, something that rarely happens. But that’s just not the case. On average, nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States, according to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. With that, it is noted that 20,000 phone calls are placed to domestic violence hotlines nationwide.
The question begins to surface about whether women need to be worried about their safety solely on the fact that they are women. According to a Twitter poll, out of 38 total votes, 63 percent of participants said they do fear for their life solely based on their gender.
One thing to keep in mind is that we get no context behind any individual’s vote nor do we know if all the voters were just women. But even with these factors considered, let us acknowledge that hearing from women is a great start in protecting them. Many times, women are left out of the discussions that not only pertain to them, but greatly affect their lives.
In addition to those discussions, be aware of what you can do in the moment. Know the signs of domestic violence and understand it can happen to anyone. Red flags of an abuser may be exhibited at any point in a relationship. Some signs can manifest as an abuser becoming jealous of the time you spend with others, an abuser embarrassing or shaming the victim and an abuser threatening violence against the victim or people they love, according to Domestic Shelters.
As difficult of a conversation as it can be, do not ignore anything that rises suspicion from you. With the climate of today’s society, we need to have women’s backs more than ever.